Baby Naming for Single Gestational Father

Naming (and gendering) a baby is tricky enough without having to worry about being misgendered while doing it. The following prayer was modified for Rafi Daugherty's gestational children. Rafi chose to gender his children according to their alleged sexes in utero. The following paragraphs utlize both a feminine and masculine form for G-d but only a masculine form for the gestational father. 


For a daughter: Eloheinu ve'elohei avoteinu v’imateinu ka'yemi et ha'yalda ha'zot le'aviha ve'tikrei sh’mah be'yisrael _Name_ bat _Father's Name_. Yis'mach ha'av b’pri bitno. Timchi ba ve’chazki ota be'etz chayim karvi ota le'toratech lamdi ota mitzvotayich ve'hori la darkech. Hati libah le'ahavah ule'yirah et sh’mech. Hodu la'donai ki tov ki le'olam chasdo zot hak’tana _Name_ bat _Father's Name_ g’dolah te'hiyeh. K'shem she'nichnesah la'brit ken tikanes le'torah ul'chupah ul'ma'asim tovim.

Our God and God of our ancestors sustain this child for her father and let her be called in Israel, _Name_ daughter of_Father's Name_. May the father rejoice in the fruit of his womb. Support her and strengthen her in the tree of life, bring her close to Your Torah, teach her Your Mitzvot, and show her Your way. Grant her heart to love and to feel awe for Your name. Give thanks to God; God's mercy is eternal. May this little one, _Name_, grow big. As she has entered into the covenant, so may she enter into a life of Torah, loving relationships and good deeds.

For a son: Eloheinu ve'elohei avoteinu v’imateinu ka'yem et ha'yeled ha'zeh le'aviv ve'yikaray sh’mo be'yisrael _Name_ ben _Father's Name_. Yis'mach ha'av b’pri bitno. Timchi bo ve’chazki oto be'etz chayim karvi oto le'toratech lamdi oto mitzvotayich ve'hori lo darkech. Hati libo le'ahavah ule'yirah et sh’mech. Hodu la'donai ki tov ki le'olam chasdo zeh hak’tan _Name_ ben _Father's Name_ gadol ye'hiyeh. K'shem she'nikhnas la'brit ken yikanes le'torah ul'chupah ul'ma'asim tovim.

Our God and God of our ancestors sustain this child for his father and let him be called in Israel, _Name_ son of _Father's Name_. May the father rejoice in the fruit of his womb. Support him and strengthen him in the tree of life, bring him close to Your Torah, teach him Your Mitzvot, and show him Your way. Grant his heart to love and to feel awe for Your name. Give thanks to God; God's mercy is eternal. May this little one, _Name_, grow big. As he has entered into the covenant, so may he enter into a life of Torah, loving relationships, and good deeds.

Prayer

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