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Weddings & Commitment Ceremonies

Although the reader might not find “something blue” on ritualwell, she or he will find much that is “borrowed,” “old,” and “new.” Jewish tradition is rich in wedding customs, and we have attempted to bring you some samples from this delightful smorgasbord. You will find pre-wedding customs such as ten'aim (engagement), during which it is customary for the mothers of the couple to break a plate, the bedecken (the veiling of the bride and modern alternatives) and the tischen (literally, "tables," where grooms and/or brides receive blessings and enjoy other rituals immediately prior to the wedding ceremony). You will also find several complete wedding ceremonies along with a breakdown of the constituent parts and alternatives for them, various ketubot (wedding contracts), ideas for tzedakah (charity), and much more. We also explore weddings and ceremonies not envisioned by the rabbis of old – interfaith marriages and weddings and commitment ceremonies between partners of the same sex.
Photo by Rabbi Roni Handler.

Orthodox Prenuptial Agreement

An agreement signed by the bride and groom prior to the wedding which abrogates the situation of a recalcitrant husband who refuses his wife a religious divorce [more]

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Tags: ketubah

Orthodox Ketubah

Text of the standard, traditional ketubah in Aramaic and English [more]

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Tags: ketubah

Egalitarian Ketubah

An example of a halachic (sanctioned by some interpretations of Jewish law) ketubah drawing on precedent from ancient text [more]

Found In: Weddings & Commitment Ceremonies

Tags: ketubah

New Ketubah

Example of an egalitarian/personalized ketubah [more]

Found In: Weddings & Commitment Ceremonies

Tags: ketubah

Acquiring Equality

A thoughtful article about how two modern brides reconciled tradition and feminism in their weddings [more]

Found In: Weddings & Commitment Ceremonies

Tags: kiddushin

Tischen (Groom's and Bride's Tables)

A brief description of this ritual, traditionally only practiced for the groom, but now embraced by both members of the couple, separately or together [more]

Found In: Weddings & Commitment Ceremonies

Tags: kabbalat panim, tisch

Bedecken (Veiling the Bride)

A brief description of this ritual and ways to make it more egalitarian [more]

Found In: Weddings & Commitment Ceremonies

Tags: bedecken

Bedecken (Noticing Each Other)

A mutual bedecken ceremony in which the groom and bride adorn one another with kippot and flowers [more]

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Tags: bedecken

Prayers for a Bedecken Ceremony

A ritual involving both the couple and their parents or other family members [more]

Found In: Weddings & Commitment Ceremonies

Tags: bedecken

"Bedecken"

A mother's observation of the bride [more]

Found In: Weddings & Commitment Ceremonies

Tags: bedecken