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Weddings & Commitment Ceremonies

Although the reader might not find “something blue” on ritualwell, she or he will find much that is “borrowed,” “old,” and “new.” Jewish tradition is rich in wedding customs, and we have attempted to bring you some samples from this delightful smorgasbord. You will find pre-wedding customs such as ten'aim (engagement), during which it is customary for the mothers of the couple to break a plate, the bedecken (the veiling of the bride and modern alternatives) and the tischen (literally, "tables," where grooms and/or brides receive blessings and enjoy other rituals immediately prior to the wedding ceremony). You will also find several complete wedding ceremonies along with a breakdown of the constituent parts and alternatives for them, various ketubot (wedding contracts), ideas for tzedakah (charity), and much more. We also explore weddings and ceremonies not envisioned by the rabbis of old – interfaith marriages and weddings and commitment ceremonies between partners of the same sex.
Photo by Rabbi Roni Handler.

Wedding Ritual to Bind Step-Families

These words are addressed to stepchildren standing under their new parents' chuppah. [more]

Found In: Weddings & Commitment Ceremonies

Chuppah (Wedding Canopy)

A brief explanation of the custom of the chuppah, ideas on creating one's own chuppah, and an explanation of circling [more]

Found In: Weddings & Commitment Ceremonies

Tags: chuppah, circling

Kavanot (Orientations) for the Seven Wedding Benedictions

Taken from traditional sources and intended to be read prior to each of the seven wedding blessings [more]

Found In: Weddings & Commitment Ceremonies

Tags: sheva brakhot

Seven Circles

A poem to be read before or during circling under the chuppah [more]

Found In: Weddings & Commitment Ceremonies

Tags: circling

Abbreviated Sheva Brachot

Suitable for pluralistic or non-religious ceremonies [more]

Found In: Weddings & Commitment Ceremonies

Tags: sheva brakhot

Spilling out Wine: A New Wedding Blessing

Under the chuppah, a heterosexual couple expressed their sadness for the inequitable status of same-sex couples. [more]

Found In: Pursuing Justice, Weddings & Commitment Ceremonies

Tags: LGBTIQ, sheva brakhot

Trans/Gender Queer Jewish Wedding Service

A ritual template for creating a Jewish wedding service that celebrates gender and sexual diversity [more]

Found In: Weddings & Commitment Ceremonies

Tags: erusin, ketubah, kiddushin, LGBTIQ, same-sex wedding, sheva brakhot

Ketubah (Wedding Contract)

An article about the ketubah, or wedding contract, which describes its history, new ketubot, egalitarian ketubot, and alternatives to the ketubah. [more]

Found In: Weddings & Commitment Ceremonies

Tags: ketubah

Conservative Ante-Nuptial Agreement

A Conservative version of an agreement between the bride and groom to abide by the decision of a rabbinic court in the event of divorce, thus abrogating the situation of agunah, a "chained woman" whose husband refuses her a religious divorce. [more]

Found In: Weddings & Commitment Ceremonies

Tags: ketubah

Lieberman Clause

Meant to be appended to the traditional ketubah and written in Aramaic by the late, great Rabbi Saul Lieberman, this clause requires the husband to grant a religious divorce (get) to his wife, should the marriage dissolve. This clause is usually used by Conservative Jews instead of the Orthodox pre-nuptial agreement. [more]

Found In: Weddings & Commitment Ceremonies

Tags: ketubah