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Weddings & Commitment Ceremonies

Although the reader might not find “something blue” on ritualwell, she or he will find much that is “borrowed,” “old,” and “new.” Jewish tradition is rich in wedding customs, and we have attempted to bring you some samples from this delightful smorgasbord. You will find pre-wedding customs such as ten'aim (engagement), during which it is customary for the mothers of the couple to break a plate, the bedecken (the veiling of the bride and modern alternatives) and the tischen (literally, "tables," where grooms and/or brides receive blessings and enjoy other rituals immediately prior to the wedding ceremony). You will also find several complete wedding ceremonies along with a breakdown of the constituent parts and alternatives for them, various ketubot (wedding contracts), ideas for tzedakah (charity), and much more. We also explore weddings and ceremonies not envisioned by the rabbis of old – interfaith marriages and weddings and commitment ceremonies between partners of the same sex.
Photo by Rabbi Roni Handler.

Sheva Brachot

Seven wedding blessings adapted for two men [more]

Found In: Weddings & Commitment Ceremonies

Tags: LGBTIQ, same-sex wedding, sheva brakhot

Intermarriage

A look at the sociological and demographic implications of intermarriage in the Jewish community along with things a prospective interfaith couple should know about Jewish attitudes, family, rabbinic officiation, the ceremony, negotiating the Jewish community after the wedding, and conversion [more]

Found In: Weddings & Commitment Ceremonies

Tags: interfaith

Brit Ger Toshav (Covenant of a Resident Stranger) and Brit Nisuin (Covenant of Marriage)

A certificate by which a non-Jew joins his/her fate to the Jewish people without formally converting and a marriage contract for a Jew and a ger toshav (resident stranger) [more]

Found In: Weddings & Commitment Ceremonies

Tags: interfaith

A Wedding Guide for a Traditional Feminist Wedding

Sue and Ben wrote a "verbose but helpful guide" to their wedding which is both traditional and egalitarian (incorporating both kiddushin and shutafut). [more]

Found In: Weddings & Commitment Ceremonies

Tags: wedding program

A Traditional Egalitarian Wedding Guide

An informative wedding booklet which walks the reader through all the traditional elements of a wedding ceremony [more]

Found In: Weddings & Commitment Ceremonies

Tags: wedding program

Traditional Egalitarian Wedding Guide 2

A wedding booklet describing one couple's choices for a traditional-egalitarian wedding [more]

Found In: Weddings & Commitment Ceremonies

Tags: wedding program

Seudat Mitzvah (The Wedding Meal)

[more]

Found In: Weddings & Commitment Ceremonies

A Bride's Prayer on Behalf of Agunot

There is a folk tradition that the gates of heaven are particularly open to the prayers of the bride and groom. In some communities, wedding couples are handed small pieces of paper prior to the processional on which personal prayers are written. They read these prayers as they walk down the aisle and while circling one another. This prayer is offered in that tradition. [more]

Found In: Pursuing Justice, Weddings & Commitment Ceremonies

Tags: agunah

Kiddushin (Erusin — Betrothal)

A brief article describing the practice of kiddushin (the first part of the wedding ceremony) and modern variations and alternatives [more]

Found In: Weddings & Commitment Ceremonies

Tags: brit ahuvim, erusin

Erusin — Betrothal

A new erusin blessing [more]

Found In: Weddings & Commitment Ceremonies

Tags: erusin