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Weddings & Commitment Ceremonies

Although the reader might not find “something blue” on ritualwell, she or he will find much that is “borrowed,” “old,” and “new.” Jewish tradition is rich in wedding customs, and we have attempted to bring you some samples from this delightful smorgasbord. You will find pre-wedding customs such as ten'aim (engagement), during which it is customary for the mothers of the couple to break a plate, the bedecken (the veiling of the bride and modern alternatives) and the tischen (literally, "tables," where grooms and/or brides receive blessings and enjoy other rituals immediately prior to the wedding ceremony). You will also find several complete wedding ceremonies along with a breakdown of the constituent parts and alternatives for them, various ketubot (wedding contracts), ideas for tzedakah (charity), and much more. We also explore weddings and ceremonies not envisioned by the rabbis of old – interfaith marriages and weddings and commitment ceremonies between partners of the same sex.
Photo by Rabbi Roni Handler.

Special Situations

Special situations at a wedding, including a second marriage, non-Jewish family members, and divorced parents [more]

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New Twists on Tying the Knot

Three innovative and creative practices, including a two-act play as wedding ceremony [more]

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Creating New Lifecycle Rituals

This article articulates principles of Jewish ritual as the author uses them to create a same-sex Jewish wedding. [more]

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Tags: LGBTIQ, same-sex wedding

B'rit Ahuvim – Lovers' Covenant

An alternative to the ketubah which explicitly rejects the language of kinyan (acquisition) in favor of the mutual language of covenant. See article on the Ketubah. [more]

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Tags: brit ahuvim, ketubah

Lesbian Wedding

An article about the couple's process of creating their wedding ceremony [more]

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Tags: LGBTIQ, same-sex wedding

A Blessing for Two Women on the Occasion of Their Wedding

A blessing to be read to two women under their chuppah [more]

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Tags: LGBTIQ, same-sex wedding

A Traditional Lesbian Wedding

Kathy, Joyce and their rabbi found innovative ways to rework the traditional wedding ceremony to suit their needs as two women. [more]

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Tags: LGBTIQ, same-sex wedding

Nissuin (Nuptials)

The text of the blessings in Hebrew and translation, an explantion, feminist considerations, two alternative same-sex texts and an additional prayer for heterosexual couples to add for same-sex partners whose love is not yet sanctified and recognized in the same way. [more]

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Tags: LGBTIQ, same-sex wedding, sheva brakhot

A Lesbian Havdalah Wedding

This beautiful Covenant of Love ceremony begins with havdalah and is filled with personal expressions of love and well-chosen readings. This ceremony is both a good example of how a lesbian couple reckoned with tradition and also how to make a ceremony extremely personal. [more]

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Tags: LGBTIQ, same-sex wedding

Harei Ani: Vows

A new legal formulation for kinyan as acceptance, rather than purchase [more]

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Tags: LGBTIQ, same-sex wedding, vows