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Historically, only a man could initiate Jewish divorce proceedings. The ceremony itself required a woman’s passive participation and did not address the concerns of same-sex couples. Recognizing that a divorce means more than the dissolution of property, we offer rituals to provide comfort and closure—addressing a range of emotions for all people going through a divorce. May these rituals bring healing to all who use them.

A Ritual of Release

By Rabbis Paula Marcus, Eli Cohen, and Lori Klein
A separation ritual for a same-sex couple prior to finalizing a get   more
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Upon the Breakdown of a Relationship

By Helen Freeman
A ceremony for a woman and friends using a bowl of stones. The stones echo stones which are traditionally left on graves as signs of remembrance.   more
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Renewing the Ritual of Get

By Or N. Rose and Judith Rosenbaum
Revisioning the get ceremony to be more than a legal procedure, taking into account the spiritual and emotional elements   more

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Havdalah Divorce

By Rabbi Megan Doherty
A divorce ceremony for the couple to be used following or, in some cases, in place of, a traditional get.   more
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Mourning a Marriage

By Rabbi Laura Geller
An article describing a ceremony for a woman to do among friends following a traditional get   more
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