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Found In: Sanctifying Intimate Relationships, Weddings & Commitment Ceremonies

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Task

When

Who

Choose a date for your wedding in consultation with clergy and family

1 year in advance

 

Decide on budget and style

1 year in advance

 

Scout out and choose a reception site

9-11 months in advance

 

Begin working on guest list and request lists from parents

9-11 months in advance

 

Choose a caterer

9-11 months in advance

 

Begin shopping for a gown

6-8 months in advance

 

Finalize guest list

6-8 months in advance

 

Meet with rabbi to discuss ceremony; set up prenuptial meetings.

6 months in advance

 

Book a band

6 months in advance

 

Choose a gown

4-6 months in advance

 

Book a calligrapher to make your ketubah

6 months in advance

 

Book a photographer

4-6 months in advance

 

Register for wedding gifts

4-6 months in advance

 

Set aside a block of hotel rooms for out of town guests

4-6 months in advance

 

Decide on wording for invitation

4-6 months in advance

 

Decide on text for ketubah

4-6 months in advance

 

Order invitations

4-6 months in advance

 

Book a baker for the wedding cake

2-4 months in advance

 

Order kippot and bentschers

2-4 months in advance

 

Reserve rental equipment if necessary

2-4 months in advance

 

Plan your honeymoon

2-4 months in advance

 

Book hotel room for wedding night

2-4 months in advance

 

Buy wedding rings

2-3 months in advance

 

Compile packages for out of town guests to be mailed with invitations

2-3 months in advance

 

Decide on chuppah – florist, tallis, how you will construct it

2-3 months in advance

 

Purchase other clothing – veil, stockings, shoes, etc.

2-3 months in advance

 

Send out wedding invitations

6 weeks in advance

 

As you receive gifts, update registry, and send out thank you notes

6 weeks in advance

 

Order liquor, wine, etc.

6 weeks in advance

 

Map out whole ceremony

6 weeks in advance

 

If you want friends to perform or read something, invite them to do so

6 weeks in advance

 

Decide on and plan pre-wedding ceremonies tisch, bedecken, kabalat panim

4 weeks in advance

 

If you will be celebrating sheva berachot after the wedding work out schedule of locations and guests

4 weeks in advance

 

Choose witnesses who will sign ketubah

3-4 weeks in advance

 

Get marriage license

2-3 weeks in advance

 

Have a final meeting with rabbi

2-3 weeks in advance

 

Work out wedding day timing and details, who picks up when where, etc.

1-2 weeks in advance

 

Write and print out wedding booklets

1-2 weeks in advance

 

Determine wedding day assignments

1-2 weeks in advance

 

Confirm all service providers caterer, band, etc.

1-2 weeks in advance

 

Go the mikveh

1-3 days before wedding

 

Bring props kiddush cups, ketubah, etc. to wedding site

Day before