10 Commandments for Constructing a Rite of Passage for Elders
Found In: Growing Older
By Rabbi Dayle A. Friedman | Article
- DO understand the meaning of the passage being marked (for subject, family/friends/community).
- DO use Jewish symbols, songs, prayers, texts, heroes, images.
- DO create drama by including ritual actions, aesthetics, senses, viscerality.
- DO attend to rhythm, transitions.
- DO consider leadership/facilitation and participation beyond the subject (prisoner can’t free herself from jail).
- DO remember: brevity is next to godliness.
- Don’t surprise the subject.
- Don’t pile images/rituals/symbols up—simplicity is best!
- Don’t be excessively didactic in explaining or offering kavvanot.
- Don’t require people to do anything that might be uncomfortable.
Used by permission of author; ©2009 Rabbi Dayle A. Friedman